Yesterday I spoke to husbands about how they should LOVE their wives, sacrificially. I said that how a husband loves his wife is not dependent on how the wife behaves. I stand by this. The Bible says that we should love our wives sacrificially. It does not give us a free pass if our wives behave a certain way or if they do, or don’t do, certain things. While I firmly stand by what I’ve said, wives, you could help us out. Don’t be difficult to love. Here are a few things that he wants you to know that might just help you both.
Most of the time he really doesn’t notice the sink full of dirty dishes. It’s not that he is lazy, stupid or just doesn’t care. It just doesn’t register in his mind. We are different, we think differently, and we see different things.
No matter how attractive a woman may be no real man wants his wife to act like the real housewives of New Jersey. This idea that in order to be a strong woman means that you have be rude, crude, have a foul mouth or be generally disrespectful is not only wrong, but make you harder to love.
I’m not suggesting that you can’t speak your mind. I’m not saying that you have to become June Cleaver, or Carol Brady. Just remember that this is the man you love and chose to spend the rest of you life with. Remember that to be that man and husband that the Bible says he should be, he must love you UNCONDITIONALLY, and SACRIFICIALLY. Remember that he loves you and his desire is to be the man and husband that the Bible tells him to be. Remember all of this and help him out.
I have spent the last 17 years working in the hospital setting. This means that I have had mostly female coworkers for most of my adult life. I can’t tell you the number of times I have heard women talk about their husbands and thought that it was no wonder their husband failed in loving them as the Bible instructs them to. I am not saying that a wives behavior gives the husband a free pass. If you think that is what I am saying, then go back and read yesterday’s post. But, I am saying that the way that many wives behave and the way they treat their husbands do not line up with the kind of love they expect their husbands to give them.
Husbands: There is no excuse for not loving your wife as Christ loved the church.
Wives: You can help your husband with this.