LET THEM ASK QUESTIONS. Let the child’s questions steer the discussion. Kids may ask questions like, “Am I going to be okay?” or “Why do these people do such terrible things?” or “Will life ever be the same again?” or “Could this happen here?”
Pay attention to the types of questions they are asking and listen for any fears they may have.
KEEP IT AGE-APPROPRIATE. You don’t need to share all the details with them like the exact number of people who died or what specific kinds of weapons were used or how the attack was coordinated.
Preschoolers: If the child is under 5, it is okay to avoid the subject if possible. At this age, kids tend to confuse facts with fears, so limit access to news and other sources of information. If they do ask questions, answer them simply but carefully. You don’t have to give them any more details than they ask for.
Elementary-age kids: Answer who, what, when and why. Then let the child’s questions and concerns guide the conversation. Focus on the child’s well being.
REASSURE THEM. After you’ve talked them through their fears, assure them of their safety. Reassure them there are good people trying to prevent any future attacks. Put it perspective by letting them know it’s on the news because it is an unusual occurrence.
KEEP A NORMAL ROUTINE. Keep your normal daily routines going. This will help them feel stable and secure.
MODEL A GOOD RESPONSE. Stay calm as you talk through the events. Children pick up their cues from their parents’ responses. If your voice conveys confidence in the people who are protecting us, it reassures your children.
The No.1 thing kids need from their parents during times like these is their time. Just be available for your kids. This is the best thing you can do for your children during this tumultuous age of terorism. – See more at: http://www.relevantchildrensministry.com/2015/12/how-to-talk-with-kids-about-terrorism.html#sthash.YDwGPAoE.dpuf