Helping Your Preteen (And Maybe Yourself) Find Their Worth

Ministries / Preteen //

In life we struggle with many things. One of the things that many of us struggle with at some point in life is self value. What am I good for? This kind of question haunts many of our thoughts and has a negative effect on our lives. The Bible tells us that we have value, no matter what the world tells us.

Confession time, I LOVE DISNEY MOVIES. There, I said it. These days I can blame it on my kids, but the truth is I had a fairly good collection of Disney movies even before I had kids. These movies are fun, feel good kinda movies. I just enjoy them. One of my favorites is Aladdin. One of the main characters is Jasmine, the beautiful daughter of the Sultan.

If you are not familiar with the movie, the Sultan is the king. This means that Jasmine is a princess. That’s almost a requirement for an animated Disney movie. Anyways, because she is the princess she lives in this amazing castle. She has the best of everything. All of her needs are taken care of. People love her. Princes from all over come and try at a chance to be her husband. Time and time again they come and she turns them down because they don’t live up to her standards. What makes Jasmine so special? Simple! She is the daughter of the king. That’s it. It really is that simple. Her value comes simply from being the child of the king.

What does that mean for us? Well, my father is not a king. Actually he is a pastor and school teacher. My mother is not a queen either. She is a nurse. Simply being their child does not make me all that special. Chances are if you are reading this, then your parents are kings or queens. So, what makes us special? Well, I have good news. If you have trusted in Jesus Christ for your eternal life, then you are a child of a king. But, not just any king, the highest of all the kings. You see the Bible says “For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship.” Romans 8:15. This means that we are sons and daughters of God, the greatest King. This means that we are princes and princesses. This means that, just like Jasmine, we are special.

Many times in this life people will not treat you like a prince or princess. People may not treat you as if you are special. Many people will not look at you and be able to see that you are valuable. BUT, the truth is that you are the son or daughter of THE King. You are special. No matter what you look like. No matter how much money you have, or don’t have. No matter where you live. You see your value comes from being a child of God, not from any of these things that people worry about.

So, when you feel that you don’t have any value, read Romans 8:15 and remember that you are a child of the most high King. This means that you are a prince or princess and no one can take that away from you.





About the Author

My name is Matt Norman and I am the Children’s Pastor at The Rock in Winter Haven, FL. I am married to my high school sweet heart Kim and have two kids; Trey, 11 and Jayden, 4. I love being in ministry to children and their parents, as well as to other adults. I love sharing the gospel and other Biblical truths. I love worshiping and leading worship.  I love seeing kids grow spiritually. I love equipping God’s people for works of good service. Basically, I love ministry. In addition to ministry I have spent 17 years working in a local hospital, 16 of them in the emergency room. Trust me this experience comes in handy in children’s ministry. God is working in my life. I don’t yet know what he has planned, but I know that it is going to be cool. I’m watching and praying and doing what I can to make myself ready for whatever it is that God is working out in my life and my ministry. I love teaching kids and adults alike. If you are looking for a camp speaker, or a special speaker for your training event then use the email link at the top of the page to contact me. I would love to come along side you to have a greater impact on kids and their families for The Kingdom.