Image source: Disney Channel
Yesterday, I posted on my Facebook page a link to an article about Disney Channel introducing it’s first lesbian couple on a kids’ show. My goal was to share something that many may not have been aware of and to see what parents and Kids Ministry leaders thought about this decision by Disney and their show, “Good Luck, Charlie.” I got a lot of reaction – on both sides of the issue.
Rather than respond to each comment, I thought it would be better if I fleshed out my thoughts here on the blog. So, here are my random thoughts on the subject:
- I am not shocked, but I am disappointed. – Disney is not a Christian company, so I certainly NEVER expect them to reflect Christian standards, values, or practices. Generally, Disney does a great job of providing benign family entertainment. Sometimes, there are even some good morals and values displayed within their stories and characters. My main disappointment with this is that Disney made a calculated decision to introduce this controversial adult subject on a show that is aimed at young children.
- I see it as an opportunity for conversation with your kids. – Disney should not have included this very controversial subject in a show that is targeted to kids. The issue of same-sex couples is one that is way too complicated and difficult for a six-year-old to comprehend or process. But, the fact remains – they did include it. It’s done. If your kids saw it and had questions, then this is an opportunity for you to talk with them about what the Bible says. It’s possible that your kids didn’t even notice the “two moms” thing. If not, then don’t feel pressured to have the conversation. However, if your kids are in 4th grade or older – it’s definitely something they are already hearing about. Probably time to address it and help them process from a biblical point of view.
- Don’t overreact and freak out! I see too many parents flip out over things like this. Don’t go on a diatribe about the “liberal agenda” and the “Disney Conspiracy.” Just calmly share with them how, although some people choose to live their lives in contradiction to what God planned and the Bible teaches (whether that is homosexuality, lying, stealing, or any other sin) – our goal should be to pray for them, show them God’s love, and display God’s character in everything we do. Don’t flip out! When you ignore the murder, violence, and harsh language in some shows and then become outraged when a scene that depicts homosexuality appears – I think that sends a message to your kids that some sins are more egregious than others. That’s not biblical. Sin is sin. Let’s not be guilty of elevating ONE sin above others simply because we personally find it more offensive.
- Be aware of what your kids are watching! – Parents need to KNOW what their kids are watching. You need to preview things when possible. Just because something is marketed as a kids show and is on a kids channel does not make it appropriate for your kids. Cherith and I banned several “kids shows” from our children due to the fact that the subject lines followed YOUNG kids dating and kissing one another. We felt that it wasn’t the “norm” we wanted our kids to see and accept. Had we not made a habit of watching the kids shows WITH our kids, we never would have known to do this.
- Don’t be afraid to turn the channel or turn the TV off! – You don’t have to create a firestorm and go on a rant. You can simply turn the TV off. Your kids may not understand why, but you can talk through it and explain the reasons. After all, we are called to be “in the world, but not of it.” Whether it is this particular subject or another – we can’t hide our heads in the sand and pretend like nothing is happening. We must be proactive in guarding our hearts and the hearts of our kids.
- Don’t focus only on the DON’T! – More importantly than what we DON’T allow them to “take in,” we must make sure they ARE taking in God’s Word, His presence, and His Spirit. If we focus only on what we DON’T want our kids to see or experience and don’t put the same amount of effort into putting the RIGHT things in their lives, I think that is a failure on our part as parents.
So, those are MY thoughts and opinions. Am I off base here? Do you agree? I welcome honest feedback. (a short clip from the show where the couple is introduced is below; for a full representation of the entire subplot, visit this link http://goo.gl/qSlUCF)