This is a tough post to write…but I think it needs to be said. Over the last couple of years I have met a lot of people who have left the staff of a church because the leader is way too into himself. I have left church staffs myself for the same reason. It really rubs me the wrong way to hear a leader talk about humility and being a servant in a Sunday morning and then go into a staff meeting on a Monday and tell the staff that they are there to make him look good. Listen, we are all humans here…every one of us that has experienced success in our life has had a brush with our ego. It’s a natural thing. Where we go wrong is when we let ourselves believe that it really is about us and not God. Here are some signs that your leader (or YOU) may have a God complex…
- Their words centralize on the theme of what you can do for them. Phrases like “my life would be better if you would…” or “you really make me look bad when you…” are not healthy phrases. Don’t get caught up in making your leader famous. Make God famous.
- They have “Ivory Tower Syndrome”. Do you have a leader that locks himself in an office and rarely comes up for air? This suggests one of two problems. Either they are so busy they can’t invest in people (they take too much on) or they do not feel investing in people around them is worth their time. Either way it’s bad.
- They often talk about their strengths and rarely talk about their struggles. Leaders are people too. It’s not all roses and rainbows in our lives. I myself have some MAJOR issues and struggles that I can not face on my own. I don’t have the strength. When a leader talks too much about their successes it usually revolves around some kind of insecurity. They are trying to cover up the weaknesses in their life. We fall into this misconception that if we aren’t perfect then people won’t want to follow us. In reality, leaders that appear perfect repel people because the conviction is way to high and unrealistic. A leader should be the first one to vocalize their struggles and need for a savior.
I am so blessed to be working with some amazing leaders at Northbrook Church. They are humble, willing to grow, and put people first. I am thankful for a leader that is the real deal. If you are in a situation that I described above please let me know. I would love to pray for you and help you get through it.