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3 Signs Your Leader Has A God Complex

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This is a tough post to write…but I think it needs to be said.  Over the last couple of years I have met a lot of people who have left the staff of a church because the leader is way too into himself.  I have left church staffs myself for the same reason.  It really rubs me the wrong way to hear a leader talk about humility and being a servant in a Sunday morning and then go into a staff meeting on a Monday and tell the staff that they are there to make him look good.  Listen, we are all humans here…every one of us that has experienced success in our life has had a brush with our ego.  It’s a natural thing.  Where we go wrong is when we let ourselves believe that it really is about us and not God.  Here are some signs that your leader (or YOU) may have a God complex…

  1. Their words centralize on the theme of what you can do for them.  Phrases like “my life would be better if you would…” or “you really make me look bad when you…” are not healthy phrases.  Don’t get caught up in making your leader famous.  Make God famous.
  2. They have “Ivory Tower Syndrome”.  Do you have a leader that locks himself in an office and rarely comes up for air?  This suggests one of two problems.  Either they are so busy they can’t invest in people (they take too much on) or they do not feel investing in people around them is worth their time.  Either way it’s bad.
  3. They often talk about their strengths and rarely talk about their struggles.  Leaders are people too.  It’s not all roses and rainbows in our lives.  I myself have some MAJOR issues and struggles that I can not face on my own.  I don’t have the strength.  When a leader talks too much about their successes it usually revolves around some kind of insecurity.  They are trying to cover up the weaknesses in their life.  We fall into this misconception that if we aren’t perfect then people won’t want to follow us.  In reality, leaders that appear perfect repel people because the conviction is way to high and unrealistic.  A leader should be the first one to vocalize their struggles and need for a savior.

I am so blessed to be working with some amazing leaders at Northbrook Church.  They are humble, willing to grow, and put people first.  I am thankful for a leader that is the real deal.  If you are in a situation that I described above please let me know.  I would love to pray for you and help you get through it.

Blessings!

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About the Author

Joe McAlpine is the Pastor of Share at Northbrook Church. Northbrook is a growing church just outside of Milwaukee WI. He has been in ministry for over a decade, serving in staff leadership at churches ranging in attendance from 500 to 7,000. Prior to his current ministry, Joe had the privilege of leading the children’s ministry at Northview Church, the 5th fastest growing and 85th largest church in America in 2013. In 2009 he created www.joemcalpine.com, a website dedicated to helping leaders in next generation ministry grow spiritually, relationally and organizationally. Joe has a passion to help young leaders of next generation, family based ministries grow into seasoned ministry professionals oftomorrow. Joe lives out his passion for next generation leaders by tapping into his experience as a husband of one, father of four, pastor and life long lover of of learning. Joe has been happily married to his wife Christy for longer than he can remember and has four children, Elijah, Selah, David, and Elisabeth. The McAlpines are originally from the Chicago area. In his spare time you can find him hanging with the family and connecting with as many kidmin people as he can!